S.H.E.: Finding the one in 2013

A new year, a new perspective, a new way to see things and maybe a new love interest?


Perhaps 2012 meant learning to cherish the golden moments of being alone and the quiet. Maybe 2012 was spent reaching career goals, achieving fitness or finally finishing that book everyone has been raving about and now it is time to share time and make memories with a special someone.

How does one go about meeting a potential companion to watch the latest blockbuster, cheer for the same sports team or enjoy a scrumptious meal over candlelight? Couples still meet through “traditional” methodsof mutual friends setting up dates, social circles such as church or community recreational athletic teams. However, with technology literally at one’s fingertips, dating is far different than it was just 20 years ago.

There is ample opportunity to meet someone through online-dating services, but without the background information a friend or acquaintance can provide, how safe is it to meet someone in cyberspace?

Match.com offers some advice for online daters to stay safe when seeking their match.


Protect your finances

-Never give out financial information such as social security number, credit card numbers or banking information.

Guard personal and online access information

-Use caution when sharing personal information and remain anonymous until you are ready and be especially cautious when using a public or shared computer by disabling automatic sign in.

Be wary of those:

-Wanting to chat outside of dating sites.

-Requesting money.

-Talking about “destiny” or “fate.”

-Asking for address under the guise of sending gifts.

-Claiming to be recently widowed.

Malinda Mitchell formerly of Belding met her husband through Match Maker International of Grand Rapids.

Malinda Mitchell formerly of Belding met her husband through Match Maker International of Grand Rapids. (Courtesy photo)

Safety is an important issue with Match Maker International as they do thorough background checks on those who register for their services. When they match a couple, they base it on common interests and those who share goals. Rather than basing matches on outward appearances, they provide profiles of people.

Though Mitchell did register with an online-dating service, she still utilized a match-making service to meet her husband. The two will celebrate their second anniversary in September and recently welcomed a son to their family. A big factor of Mitchell’s happy outcome was due to the safety measures put in place by Match Maker International.

“I would always suggest (we met at a restaurant) meeting where it is public, not at someone’s house where nobody else will be,” Mitchell stated. When setting up for that first time, don’t plan on hanging out for hours or all night long. That first meeting, just have a drink or two like meeting for coffee to see how things go. If you communicate well, you’ll want to talk about the important things right up front, like an interview. If the guy or girl comes off as, ‘Why not come back to my place,’ that is a big safety thing to steer clear of.”

So if a resolution for the new year is to enlarge your social circle, consider registering with an online dating service and follow the safety tips to make the experience a safe and enjoyable one.

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