TEEN BEAT: Move on
It takes less energy to move on than it does to be mad.
Recently, I have come to the conclusion that it is easier to move past your anger and smooth things over than it is to hold on to your frustration. I am someone who likes to sweep the really big issues in my life under the rug and not deal with them. But when it comes to the more everyday issues, I tend to get upset more easily.
I have noticed something about the way in which I deal with my frustration, too. I tend to sulk and give the silent treatment. Both of these habits are very immature. Things tend to end a lot better when I tell the person that I am upset with why I’m mad at them. Sometimes they still may not understand it but I feel a lot better once I put it out there.
Sometimes it has even gotten to the point where my feelings start to build upon each other. And in the worst case scenarios, I forget what even started my frustration. By this point, I’ve dug myself into quite a hole and it’s hard to pull myself out.
Now that I can take a step back and see all these things about myself, it’s going to help me change them. I’m working on not getting so mad about little things and just realizing that in the scheme of life, they don’t mean a whole lot. And when there is something that really is irritating or upsetting me, I’m trying to just get it off my chest instead of making it into a bigger deal than it needs to be.
I understand that these bad habits are things that have developed over a long period of time and that means it won’t be quick or easy to change them. But at least now I can really see how much time and energy it takes to be mad at someone for something that requires a simple conversation to smooth over. The moral of the story is that some things aren’t worth the energy they take to think or brood or talk about. It’s better just to get over it and move on.
Grace Fowler is a senior at Greenville High School. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.